What to Do if Your Boss is an A$$! Fire Him? Or Become Your Own Boss?
Every week I hear stories of abuse from managers and supervisors who have no experience ‘managing’ and instead opt to lash out on people they were assigned to train. Corporate abuse is not a new thing. Bullying in the office by bosses is more common than you would think. However, sometimes the ‘bullying’ can be accepted as common practice. Therefore, new employees tend to be given the message to ‘toughen up’ and not complain. In the meantime, there are serious emotional and physical byproducts that can occur from this abuse.
So how do you recognize the difference between abuse and just ‘learning the ropes.’ And what can you do if you discover that your boss is actually a total jerk and bully?
Gary Namie, PhD, director of the Workplace Bullying Institute, says these are the 25 most common tactics adopted by bullies, according to targeted victims:
- Falsely accusing someone of “errors” not actually made.
- Staring, glaring, being nonverbally intimidating and clearly showing hostility.
- Discounting the person’s thoughts or feelings (“oh, that’s silly”) in meetings.
- Using the “silent treatment” to “ice out” and separate from others.
- Exhibiting presumably uncontrollable mood swings in front of the group.
- Making up own rules on the fly that even she/he does not follow.
- Disregarding satisfactory or exemplary quality of completed work despite evidence.
- Harshly and constantly criticizing having a different ‘standard’ for the target.
- Starting, or failing to stop, destructive rumors or gossip about the person.
- Encouraging people to turn against the person being tormented.
- Singling out and isolating one person from co-workers, either socially or physically.
- Publicly displaying “gross,” undignified, but not illegal, behavior.
- Yelling, screaming, and throwing tantrums in front of others to humiliate a person.
- Stealing credit for work done by others.
- Abusing the evaluation process by lying about the person’s performance.
- Rebelling for failing to follow arbitrary commands.
- Using confidential information about a person to humiliate privately or publicly.
- Retaliating against the person after a complaint was filed.
- Making verbal put-downs/insults based on gender, race, accent or language, disability.
- Assigning undesirable work as punishment.
- Making undoable demands– workload, deadlines, duties — for person singled out.
- Launching a baseless campaign to oust the person.
- Encouraging the person to quit or transfer rather than to face more mistreatment.
- Sabotaging the person’s contribution to a team goal and reward.
- Ensuring failure of person’s project by not performing required tasks: signoffs, taking calls, working with collaborators.
In addition, Namie says confronting the boss is “rarely effective and ill-advised.” A few years ago, WBI asked 1,598 individuals who were personally familiar with workplace bullying what strategies they adopted to get their bullying to stop, and whether those actions were effective. Here’s what they said:
- About 38% of bullied employees essentially did nothing. In other words, he or she let time pass, hoping matters would improve on their own. Effectiveness of doing nothing: 3.25%
- About 70% of employees directly confronted the perpetrator. Effectiveness of confronting: 3.57%
- About 71% of bullied employees asked the perpetrator’s boss to intervene and stop it. Effectiveness of seeking support from bully’s boss: 3.26%
- About 74% told senior management/owner, expecting support.Effectiveness of seeking support from senior management/owners: 3.69%
- About 60% of those in unions asked their union to intervene and stop it.Effectiveness: 8.84%
- About 43% of employees filed a formal complaint with HR alleging a policy violation. Effectiveness of telling HR: 4.7%
- About 19% filed a complaint with an external state or federal agency. Effectiveness of filing a complaint with EEOC, etc.: 11.9%
- About 34% of bullied workers tried to find an attorney to file a lawsuit.Effectiveness of finding an attorney: 11.2%
- About 9%, or 379 respondents, did file a lawsuit. Effectiveness of filing a lawsuit: 16.4%
In conclusion, if you are in a situation where you are miserable, you have some options:
You can either settle in and hope your superiors are fired and the environment changes, or you can look for another corporate job. You could also make a decision to work for yourself.
Matt Byron in his recent article, “The Death of the Workday: Is 9-5 Working Obsolete?” discusses how the 9-5 work environment may be changing dramatically and how there are more and more work-from-home options for people who are tired of the ‘grind.’ But this doesn’t eliminate the bullying fully. Employees could work from home and still be subjected via online meetings etc with the same bullying tactics if they opt to continue in an employee – boss relationship.
However, more and more people are opting out of (or leaving) the work-place altogether and choosing to become their own bosses. Many home-based entrepreneurs are leveraging the power of social media and earning way more than they were in their previous abusive settings. In this article by Kaleigh Moore, “Your Odds of Making It as an Online Entrepreneur Are Better Now Than Ever Before, ” we see that online sales is skyrocketing and there are viable options for motivated people who are frustrated with the lack of work-life balance and the bullying that may occur in a traditional corporate culture.
Network Marketing/direct sales is a great option for people to look at when making a decision to jump start a business online. The industry is in momentum. Brick and mortar retailers are going out of business, people are telecommuting and social media makes it easier than ever to run a strong business from home. I personally, started working via from home as my own boss a few years ago with a company specializing in intermittent fasting and super food nutrition, and would have it no other way. Most of the companies out there recruiting business builders offer free training, very low start up costs and support. In addition, it is no longer necessary to have home parties every week or carry inventory (products are shipped via warehouses). I have seen many people fire their bosses that now are thriving as their own bosses by leveraging online sales.
So, if you are tired and ready to fire your boss, be encouraged.
Today is a great day to make the move from doormat to entrepreneur.
Fire your boss!
It’s time for you to live a life of design…go for it and give your new boss (you) the pat on the back and affirming words you deserve.
FIRE YOUR BOSS!
BECOME YOUR OWN BOSS and don’t give the corporate revolving door another thought.