Blended Family Preaches On Kanye West in Church!
I hated when Kanye West took the mic from Taylor Swift when she won the best video award over Beyonce at the VMA’s in 2009. As a strong pro-life woman I was upset for weeks over the promotion and misrepresentation of Planned Parenthood as being mostly for ‘women’s health and not abortion’ on Kanye’s wife’s show The Kardashians. But I have also observed and respected the way Kanye stretches the limits in business and challenges traditional mindset in his music. We also have watched the Kardashian’s as a family and grown to love the sisters and the way Kris Jenner has brilliantly raised her daughters with deep love and respect.
I am the Senior Pastor at an awesome church and this Sunday spent an entire sermon on Kanye West and the subject of leadership. Our church is affectionately called THE CHURCH OF THE PURPLE COUCH. This church is a home church and has a congregation of between 7-10 family members depending on the week. We have been ‘home-churching’ for about a year now. We opted for home churching because we enjoy the intimacy of worshiping and learning in a family setting. We have breakfast, sit on our couch and chairs with coffee or tea and worship, pray, talk and study the Bible. Our family is very unique. We are an extreme minority family. We are from 4 different countries (Ethiopia, Guatemala, Ukraine and America). I am a conservative, Christian, pro-life, white mother raising African, Hispanic, American and Ukrainian children (5 are adopted). My husband is a converted Christian jew.
We don’t hide away from culture. We learn from it. We are teaching our kids to be free thinkers with an understanding that our family is uniquely brought together by God and created by parents who have always (like Kanye) looked at the world from different angles. Had we continued to think inside of boxes and never challenged the status quo we never would have the family we have.
The sermon started with us talking about how God uses imperfect people to bring about change. We referenced stories in the Bible and talked about how Jesus came into the temple, flipped the tables and spoke at a time where people didn’t want to hear what he had to say. I told the kids that Jesus was hated for changing public opinion, creating a movement and how he was even crucified for it. We talked about how Christ got in trouble for breaking with religious traditions and how His entire ministry was about transforming public belief and teaching others to think differently. We continued to share aspects of leadership and how God calls us to be brave sometimes and gives us vision to create music, art or to write. We reminded them that some people will hate what they create while others will love it. We taught the kids about not letting fear stop them from saying what they have learned through studying God’s word. We encouraged them to be confident in speaking what they know to be true. We talked about loving your brothers and sisters even when they disagree. We are one family and have come together already as people with obvious visible differences. The gist of the lesson was that great leaders often break from culture and create movements by being the first to say what many have been thinking but were afraid to express.
Our observations from Kanye’s tweets was that he was challenging common mindset in the African American community. But he also was challenging perception for all and calling us to work harder to think for ourselves. He suggested that there have been generations of people focusing on the past. He is encouraging people to look through a more positive lens, into the future. This was a great lesson for my kids to see played out in media. If anyone has a great excuse to focus on their past, it would be my kids. My children are true orphans and have struggled with many tragedies in their lives including watching parents die of AIDS, being abandoned in orphanages and having to figure out how to adjust in a new country with a new family. But they are optimistic, hopeful and are healed from the orphan spirit that threatened to cause them to shrink back into failure rather than fly forward into success.
We finished with prayer and then talked about Kanye, his music, Yeezy’s and what certain celebrities are saying about Kanye’s tweets. We prayed in gratitude for Kanye’s bravery. We all came to the conclusion that Kanye’s controversial tweets are a good thing because it opens the door to healthy debate.
Kanye is not Jesus. I am not Jesus. But the Bible is filled with examples of extremely flawed individuals being used for good. We are teaching our kids to be more like Jesus. We are all working hard to be more courageous and bold – like Jesus. We study the Bible to learn how to navigate this crazy world like Jesus. The problem is that so many people are afraid to walk the walk.
Some people are accusing Kanye of being crazy. Many criticize him and suggest this is a publicity stunt. Some cut him off or unfriend him. But I have to say that my African, Hispanic, Ukrainian, American family is paying attention and excited to have this current twitter exchange of Kanye’s as a cultural example of someone brave enough to think in a way that challenges popular opinion. Kanye in many ways is courageous – like Jesus.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. “All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish. Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them. Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all. For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.
Our sermon from the Church of the Purple Couch ended in praising God for bringing our family of differences together, in a safe place where we can sit under one roof on a Sunday worshiping God together. We are representing a vision of another out-of-the-box visionary who imagined a world where black and white brothers and sisters would live together as one family worshiping God.
I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality… I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.
-Martin Luther King Jr.
The Church of the Purple Couch ended this Sunday reminding us that ‘unconditional love’ will have the final word as our family celebrates how the ‘bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood in becoming a reality’ is our reality NOW. It has been a long time coming but will continue to be our weekly praise report. We are expectant of more miracles in our lives coming out of our dark pasts. Grateful for the forward thinking visionaries who made my family possible. We will always keep you in our prayers for sure.
Deanna Falchook writes about Pro-Life, Adoption and Christian Topics. She is highly focused on fairy tales and their impact on politics, faith and culture. She is the author of a book called TO BE A MOTHER and the soon to be released book called THE CINDERELLA MINDSET. Deanna’s work has been featured in THE FEDERALIST, Charisma, Breitbart, 700Club, EWTN, Faithwire to name a few. Deanna is the mom of 7 children (5 internationally adopted) and lives near Disneyworld in Orlando. You can contact Deanna on FACEBOOK or twitter @deannafalchook.