The 4th annual pro-life women’s conference just ended in New Orleans this weekend. The conference hosted by Abby Johnson was sold out with 800 attendees and dozens of sponsors in attendance. I was blessed to share my testimony on a panel with five other post-abortive women. I learned so much at this conference and I wanted to share an unusually interesting observation of mine.
Before my abortion, I had a warped preconception regarding the character of pro-life women. Convinced they were all judgmental, self-righteous and had little concern for my well being, I preferred not to associate with them at all. I saw them as women who were misinformed, narrow-minded, too conservative for my taste, grovelers at the feet of their husbands, perpetual sidewalk hecklers with picket signs attached to their uterus’ and quite frankly lacked a SENSE OF STYLE/FASHION – while simultaneously sporting BIG TEXAN HAIR.
I wanted nothing to do with them. I have to admit that the stereotype in my mind was a huge reason as to why I chose to call myself pro-choice and eventually chose abortion. I didn’t want to talk like these women, dress like them, and I didn’t want their life or lifestyle. I didn’t want to ally with women who didn’t share my respect for women’s choice. I thought they were only concerned with indoctrinating women by turning them into those who had no valid opinions of their own but instead were echoing restrictive narratives given to them by men. Yes, that was my thought process before my abortion.
I became pro-life about 5 minutes after my baby was painfully sucked out of my body. That was over 20 years ago. I could’ve cared less at that point what the pro-life women looked like, smelled like, or talked like. I just knew that the pro-choice women who looked all cool in their bra-less halters and flat hair, ruined my life with their bait and switch rhetoric. They baited me into a lie by minimizing the after effects of the abortion experience and then when I said ‘HEY WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT (regarding my abortion)?” ‘, they grew silent and didn’t look so cool anymore.
I didn’t tell anyone about my abortion. And I didn’t find healing until many years later. However, when it came time to pick up the pieces and reconcile my abortion, I found that the big-haired pro-life women were the ones who came running to my side to pick me up off the floor. Pro-life women are not what you expect, and there is this WEIRD THING about them that never gets talked about or presented in media.
Pro-life women these days break the old stereotype. For example, did you know this about pro-life women?
1. A considerable percentage have had abortions.
2. Many have worked for Planned Parenthood before.
3. Pro-life women come from all different religions and races.
4. Some are vegetarians or gluten-free.
5. Some have lots of kids – others a few – and some NONE.
6. Some wear tattoos and purple hair.
7. There are pro-life women from San Francisco, Los Angeles, Illinois and even (GASP) New York.
8. There are pro-life atheists, lesbians, Jews, and even DEMOCRATS!
9. Pro-life women have Louis Vuitton purses, and others throw their stuff in their diaper bags or target shopping bags.
10. Pro-life nuns can do demonstrations on how to eat crawfish while later preaching on the sanctity of life.
11. Pro-life women have a sense of humor and will take selfies wearing crowns!
12. Pro-life women love profoundly and are intensely passionate about all women – especially those needing to be healed from abortion.
Those are just a few of the weird things about pro-life women that never gets mentioned.
Abby Johnson is a strong pro-life advocate. She is unwavering in her advocacy, bold in her presentation and relentless in her pursuit in revealing the atrocities of abortion. The interesting thing is that her voice will continue to be heard and amplified. While Planned Parenthood may be threatened and concerned by her advocacy, they are about to be dumbfounded even more when the strong and articulate women that congregated this weekend at the Pro-life Women’s Conference speak out even more boldly than Abby has. Abby Johnson’s friends are just getting started. She has inspired a courageous group of women. There are books being written, new ministries formed, more movies coming and thousands of post-abortive women speaking out.
Pro-life women don’t live up to the stereotype. They come from everywhere. Some do have big Texan hair (like most of my newfound pro-life Texan friends), and some have hair that sticks to the side of our faces from the New Orleans humidity (present company guilty). The weird thing about pro-life women is that this year alone they have fought successfully to close clinics, change policy, open pregnancy clinics, make pro-life movies, heal women after abortion, find new jobs for abortion workers, cry and pray with women, meet with the President, educate abortion-minded women and save the lives of babies.
The weird thing about pro-life women is that contrary to what the media would have you think, their numbers are growing. They aren’t backing down. The weird thing about pro-life women is that they are more powerful than all of the armies of pro-choice marchers because they carry with them the one weapon of truth that pro-choice women try to hide – abortion does not empower women. The weirdest thing about pro-life women is that no matter how they look or where they come from, they are clearly winning the fight against abortion.
I, for one, am so proud to call myself a pro-life woman. Next year we will be all gathered together in Indianapolis for another pro-life women’s event. Get your tickets fast. The event will be sold out because we are weird like that.
Deanna Falchook writes about Pro-Life, Adoption and Christian Topics. She is highly focused on fairy tales and their impact on politics, faith and culture. She is the author of a book called TO BE A MOTHER and the soon to be released book called THE CINDERELLA MINDSET. Deanna’s work has been featured in THE FEDERALIST, Charisma, Breitbart, 700Club, EWTN, Faithwire to name a few. Deanna is the mom of 7 children (5 internationally adopted) and lives near Disneyworld in Orlando. You can contact Deanna on FACEBOOK or twitter @deannafalchook.